Guest Blog: Chris Dollard, the Gottman Institute – Marriage Minute

Sex can be one of the most difficult subjects to bring up in a marriage, but sometimes it’s the most important. Within the context of a marriage, resistance to discussing sex could be symptomatic of a larger problem: a lack of safety and intimacy.

This is where the other elements of a solid relationship, like friendship and trust, become crucial.

Sex requires vulnerability and honest communication. For this to work, both partners must feel safe to voice their insecurities, needs, and wants. Safety is built by turning toward each other, listening to one another, and providing affection.

Try to have an honest conversation about your feelings and fears regarding sex as a way to grow closer. Cultivating a safe space to discuss those feelings will help build trust between you both.

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